“John beat Mary.
Mary was beaten by John.
Mary was beaten.
Mary was battered.
Mary is a battered woman.”
Wait, what happened to John’s role in this? Where did he go? Why are we not asking questions about John?
“Could your daughter please write him a letter?”
No, I said. She does not want to write him a letter.
“But, can’t you get her to do it? He’s gone to the trouble of writing her, not once, but several times.”
No. I explained. She was not obligated to respond simply because he wanted and expected her to. She had an equal and apparently competing right to not communicate. She neither sought out nor consented to his advances.
But, he meant no harm and this would be a good lesson.
The lesson, I pointed out politely, was that when a girl avoids you, does not respond to your attentions, and makes no effort to engage in communication, she is not interested. That is the lesson.
Please help us circulate our May Technical Assistance Question of the Month: How can I help elders in my community be safe from abuse?We’d love to hear your feedback and ideas, so comments on our blog are encouraged!
May is Older Americans Month, honoring the value that elders contribute to our communities. It also provides an opportunity to elevate the rights of elders to live free from abuse. Although research on the incidence and prevalence of elder abuse is still very limited, it is estimated that as much as 11% of US elders report experiencing some type of abuse or neglect. Older victims may be abused by intimate partners, adult children, grandchildren or other family members, caregivers or others in positions of authority. In a majority of cases, the perpetrator is the victim’s family member, most often an intimate partner (Acierno et al., 2009; Lifespan of Greater Rochester, 2011). Advocates in programs addressing domestic and sexual violence often serve older adults and seek support in the continual process of enhancing their services, outreach efforts, and educational programs to best respond to their unique needs and experiences.
On June 15th, people across the globe will come together to bring attention to this important issue by observing World Elder Abuse Awareness Day (WEAAD). First launched in 2006 by the International Network for the Prevention of Elder Abuse (INPEA) and the World Health Organization at the United Nations, WEAAD has served as a call-to-action for individuals, organizations, and communities to raise awareness about elder abuse, neglect, and exploitation.
“The term “patriarchal violence” is useful because unlike the more accepted phrase “domestic violence” it continually reminds the listener that violence in the home is connected to sexism and sexist thinking, to male domination.”
| bell hooks
Women and girls are the ones expected to carry the shame of the sexual crimes perpetrated against them. And that shame is a tremendous load to bear, because once you’re labeled a slut, empathy and compassion go out the window. The word is more than a slur—it’s a designation.
When a Muslim fraternity from the University of Texas at Dallas took to the streets to protest against domestic violence, these striking pictures made waves around the world. Muslim America rocks — we just don’t hear about it often.
muslim dudes against domestic violence.
Loves it! Keep up the great work!